A Somatic Approach to Navigating Non-Monogamy & Polyamory with Security and Self-Trust
Most people’s nervous systems haven’t learned what safety feels like outside of the monogamous blueprint.
Let’s work together to regulate your nervous system, reconnect with (and speak) your truth, and build the secure, spacious relationships you deserve.
✨ What You Likely Want
You want non-monogamy to feel expansive—not terrifying.
You want to know you’re loved, prioritized, and enough…
Even when your partner is with someone else.
Most of my clients want the same things:
Reassurance that doesn’t require you to beg for it
Confidence in your connection—even when you're not the only one
A way to handle jealousy without stuffing it down or spiraling
A deeper understanding of your own needs and boundaries
To stop wondering if you’re “the problem” for feeling the way you do
😔 What You’re Likely Experiencing Instead
Even if mentally and philosophically you are aligned with non-monogamy, your body might be telling a different story.
You try to play it cool… but your chest tightens.
Your stomach drops.
Your mind races with comparison, fear, or grief.
💔 Emotional Intimacy Triggers
“Are they more connected than we are?”
💔 Physical Intimacy Triggers
“Are they more turned on by someone else?”
And through it all, you're afraid to speak up—worried it’ll make you seem insecure, jealous, or controlling.
So you keep it in. But it’s taking a toll.
💡 Here’s the Truth
If you're struggling, it doesn't mean you're not cut out for this.
Our culture trains us to equate love with possession and exclusivity — to believe that being “the one and only” is the ultimate proof of worth.
So when your relationship opens, your body can interpret it as danger, even if your mind understands it’s a choice.
This is where mindset work alone falls short.
Because what you’re trying to rewire isn’t just a belief — it’s a physiological pattern.
The real shift doesn’t happen in your thoughts.
The real shift happens in the body — when your nervous system learns that love and safety can coexist with freedom.
When you learn to regulate, communicate, and connect from your body — not from fear — you create relationships that are:
Secure: Grounded in trust and emotional steadiness.
Resilient: Able to repair after rupture and return to balance.
Liberatory: Rooted in choice, authenticity, and interdependence.
This work isn’t about staying calm all the time.
It’s about coming home to yourself — again and again — no matter who you love or how your relationships evolve.
🛠 Inside Our Work Together
I help people rebuild a felt sense of security and self-trust in open relationships, so they can love expansively without losing themselves.
Through somatic coaching, nervous-system-informed tools, and relational skill-building, I support individuals, couples, and polycules to:
🌿 Name and ask for the needs that truly create safety (beyond exclusivity).
🌀 Regulate their nervous systems so hard conversations don’t spiral into shutdown or defensiveness.
💔 Untangle jealousy and possessive conditioning to expand capacity for compersion, connection, and freedom.
🤝 Design intentional agreements and structures that fit their values and relational ecosystem.
Introducing: The T.R.U.E. Method™
My Framework to Rewire Fear, Regulate Jealousy & Root Into Secure Love
A 4-step process to help people practicing non-monogamy and polyamory shift from just surviving… to truly thriving.
T — Thoughtfully Rewire Fear
Notice the story the brain is telling—both the personal fears and the cultural conditioning inherited around love, worth, and exclusivity. Begin to gently rewire these mono-normative beliefs and fear-based narratives, creating space for new possibilities grounded in self-trust and conscious choice.
R — Regulate the Nervous System
Downshift from threat to safety using body-based practices that soothe and anchor. When old patterns or relational triggers arise, this inner regulation helps us stay grounded and responsive, rather than reactive.
U — Use Clear Self Awareness to Communicate Effectively
From this more centered place, bring mindful presence into our communication. Speak from the “wise adult” Self, not the reactive part—clearly and compassionately naming needs, boundaries, and desires while staying anchored in curiosity, care, and consent.
E — Embody Secure Relating
Explore the deeper roots of big emotional responses—tending to wounds, protective strategies, and internalized scripts. Then, practice new relational behaviors rooted in secure attachment, resilience, and alignment with authentic values—moment by moment.
🧠 Why It Works
Because we’re not just battling our thoughts.
We’re navigating a paradigm shift.
And our nervous system needs a new map.
This isn’t about forcing anyone to be okay with something that hurts.
It’s about rebuilding trust and safety—within ourself first.
👋 My Story
I’ve walked this path. I’ve cried through heartbreak that didn’t fit into any cultural box. I’ve sat in therapy wondering why I felt devastated about a lover when I had a happy marriage.
That pain cracked me open—and led me to the healing work that changed my life.
It took me over a decade—of therapy, books, trial and error—to unravel mono-normative conditioning, not just in my mind, but in my body.
I had to stop outsourcing my worth. To stay present with the parts of me that wanted to run, chase, cling, or shut down.
To re-pattern what safety and intimacy felt like in my body, not just what I believed about it in my mind.
I went the LONG way so you don’t have to.
I’ve since condensed what I learned into a clear process that helps people shortcut the confusion, heartbreak, and overwhelm I faced with non-monogamy, so you can start designing love on your own terms.
Not through more rules or intellectualizing.
But through somatic practices that regulate and rewire the nervous system—so you can communicate your needs from a grounded, secure place, instead of from fear or activation.
💛 This Work Is for People Who Are…
Practicing (or opening to) non-monogamy and struggling with jealousy, fear, or uncertainty
Have tried books, podcasts, and even therapy—but still feel dysregulated and insecure
Unsure how to build a healthy, sustainable foundation for more expansive ways of relating
Ready to feel grounded and secure in non-monogamous relationships
✖️This Isn’t A Good Fit If You’re Looking for…
A quick fix or one-size-fits-all formula to “do it right”
Tools to change or control a partner instead of focusing on individual growth
A way to avoid discomfort or stay in old patterns without doing deeper work
“I’m ready to stop spiraling and start feeling secure with non-monogamy.”
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