A Somatic Approach to Navigating Non-Monogamy & Polyamory with Security and Self-Trust

You didn’t expect to be here—googling “how to handle jealousy in non-monogamy.”
Maybe opening up your relationship wasn’t your idea, or maybe it was.
Maybe it started as a dream—or a compromise.
Either way, you’re in it now. And it’s a lot more emotionally complex than you expected.

You want to feel grounded, chosen, and secure.
But instead, your nervous system is sounding the alarm every time your partner leaves for a date.

You’re not broken.
You’re not too much.
And you’re definitely not alone.

Let’s work together to regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your truth, and build the secure, spacious relationships you deserve.

✨ What You Likely Want

You want non-monogamy to feel expansive—not terrifying.
You want to know you’re loved, prioritized, and enough…
Even when your partner is with someone else.

Most of my clients want the same things:

  • Reassurance that doesn’t require you to beg for it

  • Confidence in your connection—even when you're not the only one

  • A way to handle jealousy without stuffing it down or spiraling

  • A deeper understanding of your own needs and boundaries

  • To stop wondering if you’re “the problem” for feeling the way you do

😔 What You’re Likely Experiencing Instead

Even though you get non-monogamy in theory, your body is telling a different story.
You try to play it cool… but your chest tightens.
Your stomach drops.
Your mind races with comparison, fear, or grief.

💔 Emotional Intimacy Triggers
“Are they more connected than we are?”

💔 Physical Intimacy Triggers
“Are they more turned on by someone else?”

And through it all, you're afraid to speak up—worried it’ll make you seem insecure, jealous, or controlling.

So you keep it in. But it’s taking a toll.

💡 Here’s the Truth

If you're struggling, it doesn't mean you're not cut out for this.

Our culture wires us to equate love with possession.
To believe that being “the one and only” is the ultimate proof of worth.
So when your relationship opens, your nervous system can panic—registering it as danger, even if your mind says it's okay.

This is where mindset work alone falls short.
The real shift happens in the body.

Introducing: The T.R.U.E. Method™

A Somatic Framework to Rewire Fear, Regulate Jealousy & Root Into Secure Love

My 3-step process helps you shift from just surviving non-monogamy… to truly thriving in it.

T – Thought Awareness
✔️ Notice the story you're telling yourself
✔️ Fact-check fear-based beliefs
✔️ Reframe your internal narrative with clarity

R – Regulate the Nervous System
✔️ Learn your personal triggers
✔️ Practice body-based tools for grounding and soothing
✔️ Move from panic to presence

U & E – Uncover & Expand
✔️ Identify attachment patterns and core wounds
✔️ Rewire relational blueprints with compassion
✔️ Build capacity for love, choice, and connection

🧠 Why It Works

Because you’re not just battling your thoughts.
You’re navigating a paradigm shift.
And your nervous system needs a new map.

This isn’t about forcing yourself to be okay with something that hurts.
It’s about rebuilding trust and safety—within yourself first.

👋 My Story

I’ve walked this path. I’ve cried through heartbreak that didn’t fit into any cultural box. I’ve sat in therapy wondering why I felt devastated about a lover when I had a happy marriage.

That pain cracked me open—and led me to the healing work that changed my life.

It took me over a decade—of therapy, books, trial and error—to unravel mono-normative conditioning, not just in my mind, but in my body.

I had to stop outsourcing my worth. To stay present with the parts of me that wanted to run, chase, cling, or shut down.

To re-pattern what safety and intimacy felt like in my body, not just what I believed about it in my mind.

I went the LONG way so you don’t have to.

I’ve since condensed what I learned into a clear process that helps people shortcut the confusion, heartbreak, and overwhelm I faced with non-monogamy, so they can start designing love on their own terms.

Not through more rules or intellectualizing.
But through somatic practices that regulate and rewire the nervous system.

🛠 Inside Our Work Together

In a personalized session, we might explore:

1. Deepening Self-Awareness & Uncovering Limiting Beliefs
Clarify your values, wants, and relational truth beyond societal scripts.

2. Regulating the Nervous System Through Somatic Tools
Build resilience and learn to soothe the part of you that’s scared and struggling.

3. Transforming Jealousy into Growth & Connection
Use challenging emotions as doorways to healing and deeper love.

💛 This Work Is for You If…

  • You’re in (or opening to) non-monogamy and struggling with jealousy, fear, or uncertainty

  • You feel stuck between what you believe and what your body is experiencing

  • You’ve tried books, podcasts, and even therapy—but still feel dysregulated

  • You want a grounded, embodied way to feel secure in your relationships

✖️This Isn’t A Good Fit If You’re Looking for…

  • A quick fix or one-size-fits-all formula to “do it right”

  • Tools to change or control your partner instead of focusing on your own growth

  • A way to avoid discomfort or stay in old patterns without doing deeper work

I’m ready to stop spiraling and start feeling secure.

Relationship Coaching Testimonials

  • "I got clear on what it is I am seeking from my relationship structures, my own needs for feeling safe in a connection, confidence to assert those needs, and tools for conversation and navigating conflict. I feel so much more comfortable in my non-monogamous journey and more capable of navigating inevitable road bumps as they arise.”

    - LUCY, non-monogamous, open, poly-curious for 1.5 years

  • "Aria has been an invaluable resource who has helped me to expand the depth and quality of my relationships and life experience, and it only keeps getting better. I highly recommend working with Aria to anyone new or feeling challenged in polyamory, or experiencing nervous system dysregulation that would benefit from stability and confidence. I've found Aria to be a beacon of clarity and growth in my journey."

    - AUBREY, Queer, Polyamorous / Solo Poly for 10 months

  • "I have had sessions with Aria Diana over the past three months, exploring solo polyamory as my preferred relationship style. Her calm support and insightful tools have been invaluable on my journey of self-discovery. Aria is good at asking the right questions. Working with her over Zoom has provided the support I need and that I couldn't easily find locally."

    - WABI SABI, she/her, solo polyamorous for 1 year

  • "Aria is a great resource for anyone interested in further exploring the depths of polyamory and non-monogamy. As someone who consumes a lot of literature and podcasts about open relationships, it was so refreshing to be able to speak to someone with experience directly. Aria's approach is very pragmatic and I was impressed by the many tangible exercises she offered to help improve my mindset and communication style."

    - C, open, queer, polyamorous

  • "Working with Aria is grounding. She holds me in a safe and secure container where I feel free to be me and know I will be accepted. She gives me hope and communication tools that I am using and getting great results. I've spent thousands of dollar in traditional therapy, but there is something about Aria and the way she works with my strengths and my weaknesses that I feel I've gotten more out of 3 session with her that I did with my therapist."

    - SALLY, open-hearted and open-minded

  • “After this experience, I know myself more deeply. I feel more connected to my partner. I feel more certain of my non-mongamous capacity and desires.”

    - MICHELLE, she/her, poly-curious for 3 years

  • “I'm excited about this next phase of our relationship because of this work. We now have the key principles, frameworks and contexts for moving forward with non-monogamy, and are more well positioned to explore different dimensions of our relationship and avoid codependent tendencies.”

    - PETE, he/him, theoretically poly

  • "Aria Diana brings so much wisdom as she covers the emotional aspects as well as some really practical aspects of being in a non-monogamous relationship. I really appreciated some tools that she shared that you can use to implement immediately. After the program I feel more in touch with myself and my desires, and more equipped for navigating relationships.”

    - LAURA, she/her, non-monogamous for 6 months

Whether you’re monogamish, brand new to open relationships, or you have a complex polyamorous relationship ecosystem, (or something in between), all of your curiosity and questions are welcome here, with zero judgment.

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